Dear Abby: Ex-fiance is gold-digging sister’s BF

Dear Abby Eight years ago I split from my fiance of years Anthony when he accused me of cheating which I was absolutely not doing Throughout the entire relationship he hurt and belittled me He is insecure and consistently suspicious However he remains attached to my family through my daughter and grandsons which I am not happy about I live across the country now and lately took a trip home to visit my family I have two sisters Coincidentally my niece s th birthday party was being held that Saturday Nobody knew I was coming so it was a surprise But it turns out the real surprise was on me When we sat down to eat one sister my niece s other aunt turned to me and disclosed I m gonna tell you something and I don t want to hear anything about it Anthony and I are in a relationship You can imagine how that went over Not only did she ruin our niece s birthday party but I feel betrayed by that sister I have contacted her by text and email telling her how I feel but she doesn t respond Right now I have no desire to talk to her or have any kind of relationship with her I think she sees dollar signs since he has money but it s not right to date your sister s ex because it breaks the sister code What is your advice on this situation Betrayed in Wyoming Dear Betrayed You may have had the longest engagement in history Wish your sister better luck in their relationship than you had because if your ex is as you described she s going to need it If you feel she violated a sister code then it appears that when money enters the picture the code is obsolete Dear Abby My wife of eight years is from Africa and we have a -year-old daughter I am white My wife is Black and years younger than I am She was raised not to celebrate Christmas She says it s because it is associated with pagan rituals coming from satanic worship in old times She doesn t want our daughter exposed to this even though she lives in the U S where Christmas is a valued tradition bringing people together with good cheer for generations My wife has no desire to compromise on this and is willing to leave the marriage over it I feel like she thinks she can roll over me with no consequences Should I start looking for a divorce attorney Traditionalist in Texas Dear Traditionalist Your wife is convinced she is doing the right thing and protecting her child by not celebrating Christmas Although I tried I was not able to find ANY association between a pagan religion that preceded Christmas and Satanism Rather than look for a divorce attorney at this point you might be better served to consult a marriage counselor as well as a religious adviser from the denomination to which your wife belongs Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA