Dear Abby: Pals wheel & deal to get dad’s cabin

Dear Abby My mother passed away last year and my father is I am trying to get their primary and vacation homes staged for sale It is a HUGE job as they were hoarders They were popular and when I go to their cabin all their neighbors want to come and chat with me and Dad Because the property is unique and valuable several of them want my father to cut a deal with them He s open to all of their requests and while he hasn t signed anything he has made verbal promises he cannot keep I have let them all know I have power of attorney and nothing will happen without my consent Since my time is limited I just want to go to the cabin on the limited days I have available to clean it out But these folks keep dropping by and consuming precious time The cabin necessities a lot more care than I thought and I need all the time I can get cleaning and staging it These numerous folks have been my parents friends and were helpful during every stage of their lives so I m afraid it would be rude to tell them to leave us alone to get the job done How can I inoffensively get them to back off and let me do what has to be done Also how can I politely let them know to stop asking about the sale of the property as I plan to go with a conventional method of sale and not a few underhanded transaction Overwhelmed By It All Dear Overwhelmed It may be time to draw the line if you want to get the work done in a timely fashion When these friendly neighbors drop by tell them with a smile that because there is so much work to be done to get the property ready for sale you do not have time to socialize Then refer those who are interested in buying to the real estate agent or attorney who will be helping you with the sale Dear Abby I have an amazing fiancee who is smart beautiful and honest I couldn t ask for more We are getting married next year and we re excited about the future we ll have together However I am struggling with something in regard to my fiancee She has noticeable facial hair I don t know how to talk to her about it I know saying something would hurt her feelings which is something I want to avoid What s the best way to go about saying something without sounding like a jerk Treading Lightly in Florida Dear Treading Multiple women have facial hair to particular degree By that I mean a mustache unibrow sideburns and even chin hair Multiple of them don t realize that people notice because they don t Because you are engaged to be married raise the subject privately and very gently Do NOT say Guess what else we have in common We both have mustaches There are solutions for this Among them are waxing and electrolysis I hesitate to mention shaving which by the way specific gorgeous women do because once she starts it must be done every day However I was communicated by a friend who shaves that it helps with exfoliation and makeup application Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA