Dear Abby: Widow is ready for another chance at love

Dear Abby In a scarce days the second anniversary of my husband s death will be here We were together for years They weren t easy years he had a great number of issues both physical and mental I was isolated because I didn t want others to know the extent of what I lived with every day I cared deeply for him and as his wife it was for better or worse It has been hard but I felt I was coping pretty well I m and I thought my life was over Now I don t know what my body is doing but I am experiencing intense feelings that I thought were long dead Taking care of my husband for so a great number of years I let myself my weight and appearance go But now I m eating healthy I have lost a meager pounds and I am trying to work on my appearance I don t understand why my body at this age has decided to come back to life I live in a rural area and I have no idea how to go about meeting any older men I spent a lot of lonely years I thought had killed all hope and love but suddenly I realize that isn t true I am so mixed up I tell myself I m being silly but my body won t listen I hope you don t think I m nuts because this is a real matter Thank you for any advice Reawakened in Oklahoma Dear Reawakened You have been through a tough time Being a full-time caregiver is wearing as well as stressful After those years caring for your sick husband it isn t surprising you forgot to take care of yourself Well that burden is now lifted and you have a lot of life ahead of you The good news is that for someone who takes care of herself who exercises regularly and eats healthfully your life is filled with possibilities and far from over This is what your body is trying to tell you Start exploring engagements that enable you to meet people and make new friends If you do you may very well meet someone and couple up again Dear Abby I owe nearly in aspirant loans for my graduate school guidance I m a middle-aged female who has medical issues My income is marginal as is my career I had hoped years ago to be earning a six-figure income own a home have a family and enjoy specific stability by this point Obviously that hasn t panned out nor do I consider my situation likely to change I am single educated and still poor I slave more than hours a week for no benefits no long-term stability no home and only marginal survival How should I explain all this if I did start to date someone When should I mention my indebtedness to any prospect before watching him flee to the nearest exit Money Woes in the East Dear Money Woes If you should be lucky enough to meet someone you think is special the first words out of your mouth should NOT have anything to do with your bank balance Get to know the person Let him get to know you before divulging anything about your financial situation At this point countless people of both sexes are worried about their financial futures You are far from alone having these concerns Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA